alice writes M1 content=d-e32b2264129942fd9a19559403f8747a on node-1
  created memory id=8bc7a274-f3e7-40b7-aab5-faf64e1bd34d
settle 8s for pre-delete fanout
pre-delete: verifying M1 is visible on all peers
  pre-delete node-2 sees 1
  pre-delete node-3 sees 1
  pre-delete node-4 sees 1
alice deletes M1 on node-1
  DELETE returned HTTP 200
settle 15s for tombstone propagation
post-delete: verifying M1 is GONE from all peers
  post-delete node-2 sees 0 (expected 0)
  post-delete node-3 sees 0 (expected 0)
  post-delete node-4 sees 0 (expected 0)