alice writes M1 content=d-dae102204698407181efb7f8b004cd40 on node-1
  created memory id=f23f7fb5-c372-4d28-af9d-b5e835c2d1de
settle 8s for pre-delete fanout
pre-delete: verifying M1 is visible on all peers
  pre-delete node-2 sees 1
  pre-delete node-3 sees 1
  pre-delete node-4 sees 1
alice deletes M1 on node-1
  DELETE returned HTTP 200
settle 15s for tombstone propagation
post-delete: verifying M1 is GONE from all peers
  post-delete node-2 sees 0 (expected 0)
  post-delete node-3 sees 0 (expected 0)
  post-delete node-4 sees 0 (expected 0)